Let's Talk About Denim

Image of 7 For All Mankind Mega flare High Waist Jeans Why is it so hard to find good quality flared jeans in my size without them costing $250??? I'm so sick of overly stretchy jeans that wear down super quick and end up with holes in the thighs. I'm also super sick of seeing "skinny jeans," "straight leg jeans," and "super skinny jeans." That shit does not look good on me, and I'm sick of trying to make styles like that "work" for my plus size body. I would just like the good ol' days of proper flared jeans back, please (and not jeans labeled as "flared" but are actually just boot cut)!!! I do not pull off skinny jeans, well at all. I'm really not trying to draw extra attention up to my gut. At least with flared jeans, there's something to distract from what's happening around my stomach and thighs. And maybe you're thinking to yourself,"You should learn to love your body more!" But let me tell you... that's hard to do when you are constantly made to feel like you're too fat to wear a certain style or brand. I mean, what's up with companies either never carrying my size (for ref: I'm btw a 16 & 18), or constantly being out of my size in jeans? It's so disheartening. And how about companies that act like they're size inclusive by using the term "all mankind" in their brand name, when they really only carry up to a certain size, and they're always sold out of that size anyways. That is NOT inclusive. I've been trying to get my mind in a good place first and learn to love myself more, so that I can also work on getting my physical self into a better place as well. I'm all for loving your body just as it is, but if I'm being real here - I need to continue to lose weight for my health and overall comfort. I don't like feeling as though I need to take a break from JUST walking every 10 minutes. I've hit a place with my health and weight, where I am physically uncomfortable, just being. (Nevermind the fears of diabetes and other illnesses that are often tied to obesity). And I am strictly speaking for myself here. If you are plus size and happy with your body and overall health, more power to you! You do you! And I'm so happy that you are so comfortable with yourself - I only hope to one day reach that frame of mind too! But I don't see that fully happening for me, if I don't work on both my mind and my body. Lastly... I feel alone sometimes in my struggles to dress stylishly. I have always had an intense burning love for fashion - especially sleek high end fashion. And guess what??? As a fat chick, I'm not included in most of that kind of fashion. I feel like I have many friends and family members who are all different shapes and sizes - but I also feel that many of my skinnier loved ones don't understand my struggles, because they don't realize how limited styles are for people my size. Lane Bryant & Torrid are great for some women (and that's fine), but they often don't have the sleek, chic styles I'm looking for. I don't want babydoll style tops, intense florals, or designs on the butt of my pants & jeans. I just want to feel included. And I'm not trying to knock all fashion companies, because I feel like a lot of retailers are stepping their game up with more extensive sizing now- but often, those pieces of clothing cost an arm & a leg. And often, those pieces cost more than their standard size counterparts. I'm sorry- but I just can't afford jeans that cost $250... I think I'm going to just stop talking here before I say anything else that could be somehow misconstrued. This is my own personal blog - a place for me to go and transcribe my thoughts and feelings on issues relating to my journey of bettering my mind & body, and overall self. This is my safe place. My place to not worry about what others think about me or what I'm saying. So please be respectful when read or interacting with this post or any other. Honestly... sometimes, I hope the font I've chosen, deters people from reading all of this. I look at this blog spot as a personal place where I can vent freely and not be judged. Thank you for understanding and being kind. Ohhhh and as for my weight loss this week - 7lbs down, and I'm so excited and feeling very motivated by it!! :) It's the most success I've seen in the span of a week, with any time I've ever tried to do this journey of bettering my health. So, even though I'm discouraged by clothing right now- I'm still going to take this week as a win and continue to try my best going forward! -L

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